CHANGE YOUR FOCUS - CHANGE YOUR LIFE
by Joe Bonura, CSP
What About Me?
I have to confess that most days, in fact every day, my focus
is 80 to 90% on me. If you are honest, you would probably say the
same thing. We go through life uttering the words, what about me,
what about me, what about me? And we wonder why so many people have
More, More, More
If it is true that we become what we think about, and we constantly
think about ourselves, our comfort, our feelings and our needs;
we are running the risk of a letdown because we will never be satisfied
if our focus is on personal satisfaction. There will always be more
that we want than we already have. Our mantra is MORE, MORE, MORE!
What if you changed your focus? And instead of focusing on yourself
and your needs, you focused on helping someone else. I am not talking
about a long-term commitment here; I am just suggesting that you
perform one, just one, act of kindness for someone else today, and
if it feels good, you do it again tomorrow. There will be many opportunities
for you to practice what I have suggested. You must open your awareness
filter and let the light of opportunity to serve shine in.
More Than A Cup Of Coffee
As I sit here in McDonald's writing this month's EZine, I noticed
a homeless person waiting at the counter to be served. He had just
ordered a cup of coffee. A gentleman standing next to him took out
a 10-dollar bill and dropped it on the floor next to the feet of
the homeless person. The man reached down, picked up the bill, and
handed it to the homeless person, and said, "Here, you must
have dropped this." It was a way of helping the recipient keep
his dignity. The recipient was able to purchase a full breakfast
instead of just a cup of coffee.
Feel Better About YOU!
It made me aware to be aware, and I was able to spot several opportunities
where I could serve throughout the day. Now I must admit that every
time I helped someone else, I felt better about me. Research has
shown that when we do something for others, we release a chemical
in our brains that gives us a sense of purpose. It is OK to feel
rewarded for doing a good deed; helping others does not have to
My Niece Is Nice
I have a niece who lives her life helping others. She once sold
her car and gave the money to someone that she felt needed the money
more than she needed the car. Now that is what I am talking about!
What Can You Do?
To get you started, here are some acts of selflessness:
- Call a friend whom you know is going through some hard
- Visit the hospital and ask the nurses who could do with a visit.
- Go to a homeless shelter and help serve the food (not just during
the Christmas season).
- Go through your closet, pick out some clothes to donate to a homeless
- Offer to drive a senior citizen to the grocery store.
- Visit a senior community and just talk with some of the residents
in the lobby.
- Pay the toll of the person behind you at the toll booth.
- Take a homeless person to lunch.
- Take a homeless person to church.
- Visit a relative with whom you have been putting off reconciliation.
Be A Serve Person
In my sales training system, I teach people to become "Serve
People" instead of "Sales People" because customers
would rather do business with serve people than sales people. I
teach that we are all problem-solving serve people, helping people
make the right decision to get what they need. Serve people earn
more money than sales people. Your goal is to make serving others
Opportunities Are Everywhere
Use your own imagination. You will start to see opportunities
everywhere if you can take the focus off of yourself. You will then
learn the secret of becoming a "Serve Person" instead
of a "Sales Person."
© 2013 Joe Bonura & Associates, Inc.